Pernah merasakan kesendirian ? Cek alasannya berdasarkan tipe kepribadianmu dan temukan cara hack kesepianmu disini!
Akhir-akhir ini apakah sobat karya sering merasa kalau kesendirian sedang meliputi?Atau memang beberapa hal dalam kesendirian tersebut adalah cara sobat untuk mempertahankan semangat?
Jadi apa sih alasannya sobat merasa sendirian?
How to struggling with them?
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- Tipe ISTJ
ISTJ sangat menyukai saat mereka sedang sendirian, saat mereka memiliki ruang privasi dan kebebasan mereka sendiri, tapi di sisi lain, mereka juga menginginkan setidaknya ada seseorang yang bisa menjadi teman dekat dengan persahabatan yang erat. Jika ia memiliki keluarga dekat, mereka akan merasa senang saat berkumpul dengan orang-orang yang dekat dengannya.
ISTJ yang kesepian akan berjuang untuk menemukan orang-orang yang mengerti mereka dan memiliki persamaan pandangan dengan mereka. Sulit untuk menemukan persahabatan yang natural bagi mereka. ISTK melihat kesungguhan dan kejujuran dalam suatu hubungan, sehingga mereka akan merasa diasingkan jika orang-orang dekat mereka tersebut tidak mengikuti rencana dan kata-kata yang mereka tentukan dan katakan.Mereka adalah orang-orang yang sangat individualis dan tidak menyukai jika orang-orang menceritakan sesuatu tentang mereka dari sudut pandang orang lain tersebut. Orang-orang yang banyak bicara dan berbagi cerita dengan PD nya tanpa berpikir sebelumnya akan cepat kehilangan kepercayaan dan penghormatan dari mereka.
Cara ampuh mengatasi kesepian ala ISTJ ini nih diantaranya ;
- Pikirkan tentang seseorang atau anggota keluarga yang bisa kamu ajak ngobrol, dan undang mereka untuk bertukar pikiran
- Keluar dari zona nyamanmu dan temukan seseorang yang asyik untuk diajak hangout, atau sekedar ajak orang tersebut untuk bermain game atau menonton film bersama.
- Terlibatlah dalam komunitas atau organisasi dimana kamu bisa mengambil bagian di dalamnya dan temukan orang yang memiliki pemikiran yang sama dan minat yang sama dengan kamu.
- Habiskan waktu dengan mempelajari hewan hewan dan memperhatikan bagaimana cara mereka berinteraksi. Ini bisa mengurangi stress mu. loh!
The ISFJ and Loneliness
ISFJ akan merasa kesepian saat perhatian dan usaha yang ia curahkan tidak disadari ataupun saat orang lain mencoba mengambil keuntungan dari kebaikan yang ia lakukan. Sebuah ucapan terimakasih ataupun balasan lain terhadap sesuatu yang ia lakukan, akan sangat berarti bagi mereka. Mereka seringkali khawatir bahwa kebaikan yang mereka lakukan-lah yang membuat orang lain menyukainya dan berpikir orang lain hanya peduli dan menyukai mereka karena sikapnya yang baik hati. Tipe ISFJ adalah orang yang bertanggung jawab dan selalu mengurus dan peduli pada berbagai hal dan memikirkan bagaimana perasaan orang lain dapat merasa senang kepada mereka dan kebutuhan orang lain dapat terpenuhi. Tapi disisi lain, mereka sendiri berharap ada orang lain yang juga peduli pada mereka sebagaimana ia peduli pada orang lain.
Loneliness Hacks for ISFJs:
– Listen or play music and sing along.
– Take a walk outside and take photos of all the birds, squirrels, and flowers you pass.
– Think of one trusted friend or family member that you can call to talk to or invite over.
– Read a book with nuanced, in-depth characters.
– Find a volunteer opportunity where you can meet compassionate, like-minded individuals.
– Write out your thoughts and feelings in a journal.
– Take the time alone to accomplish some self-care.
– Spend time with animals.
– Stand up for your own needs and desires. Don’t be afraid to share who you really are and ask for help or encouragement.
– Snuggle babies! Many NICUs across the country are looking for people to hold, cuddle, or feed premature babies or babies born with addictions.
Related: The Childhood Struggles of ISFJ
The ISTP and Loneliness
ISTPs are extremely independent, resourceful, and analytical individuals. As a whole, they tend to do better alone than many types. They usually thrive on having their own space and freedom. However, many ISTPs get lonely when they’re bored and they don’t have anyone who shares the same interests to talk to. They usually desire one close friend who enjoys similar activities and who can “get” them and hang out from time to time without a lot of pressure. ISTPs are extremely independent, but they still desire understanding and connection like anyone else does. Being bored and unable to find a passion or interest is often when their loneliness begins to set in. They like to know that even if they are alone that there are people out there who care for them that they can talk to or spend time with if the need arises.Loneliness Hacks for ISTPs:
– Join a volunteer organization and meet other people through a shared goal or passion.
– Read a book filled with fascinating characters and exciting plot twists.
– Find a new hobby or interest.
– Enjoy playing video games? Connect with other gamers online.
– Take a walk or a jog in nature to refresh your mind and body.
– Find an ISTP group on Facebook and enjoy talking with like-minded individuals.
– Find a way to help other people out. Mow the neighbors lawn or help out in an animal shelter.
– Think of one trusted friend or family member that you could invite over for an activity or conversation.
Related: Understanding ISTP Thinking
The ISFP and Loneliness
ISFPs are very compassionate and private individuals. They lead with introverted a feeling, a deeply value-drive, emotionally rich process that is kept almost entirely internalized. It isn’t until they find a very trusted friend that they feel they can share their deep feelings and values. As a result, ISFPs who don’t have a true “kindred spirit” in their life tend to feel isolated because they aren’t able to share their true selves with anyone and may feel they have to pretend everything’s okay and settle for casual acquaintances over deep friendships. They would usually rather have one or two very close, trusted friends over a large group of “halfway” friends. ISFPs can also feel very lonely when their emotions show and they are judged for it. They are very moved by sadness and suffering and may show it by crying (even though they’d rather not). When people belittle their reactions or mock them, it only makes them feel worse. It’s important for them to have at least one confidante or trusted friend or family member who they can turn to during these times.Loneliness Hacks for ISFPs:
– Spend time with animals!
– Watch a movie or read a book.
– Find one trusted friend or family member that you can talk to or invite over.
– Get creative. Paint or draw while listening to music!
– Sing or play music.
– Find a volunteer opportunity that will put you in touch with compassionate, like-minded individuals.
– Take a walk in nature to improve your mood.
– Pamper yourself with a night in; soak in the tub or find other self-care activities.
– Use your nurturing side to hold and comfort babies. Many NICUs across the country are looking for people to hold, cuddle, or feed premature babies or babies born with addictions.
Related: 10 Surprising Truths About ISFPs
The INTJ and Loneliness
INTJs tend to thrive in solitude and enjoy peace and quiet to immerse themselves in their ideas, books, and projects. At the same time, they usually desire at least one or two close, trusted friends who they know they can count on no matter what. They want to have deep, meaningful conversations and debate existing theories and pull them apart. They want someone who is interested in more than small talk or day-to-day routines. Many INTJs have mentioned to me that they look more for a “soulmate” than a variety of casual friendships. They tend to be content with just one person who understands them and who they can dedicate their time to. Because INTJs make up only 1.5% of the population, it can be difficult for them to find other people who understand their way of thinking. If they can find just one they are usually content at this point. INTJs can also feel misunderstood and frustrated when they give logical advice to their friends, and instead of that advice being taken or at least kindly ignored, it ends up offending the person they’re giving it to. They can get disillusioned with friendships where they have to refrain from helping in the way that is most natural to them or when their efforts to help are rebuffed, ridiculed, or misconstrued.Loneliness Hacks for INTJs:
– Do you have any friends with shared interests? Text them and see if they’d like to come over. Bring up your interests and ask them about their own. Try to veer the conversation away from small talk.
– Read a book or write your own book!
– Find an online community of like minded individuals (an INTJ group, a debate community, a group of philosophy aficionados, etc,.).
– Find a volunteer opportunity you care about. Working with people who want to make a difference in the world can be extremely inspiring and life-changing.
– Play music or try to write your own song.
– Take a walk to refresh your mind and body.
– Get a pet!
– Take a walk through an art museum and be open to discussion with people there.
– Don’t worry about marking off a mental checklist of requirements when you meet people. As long as they seem trustworthy and kind, take the chance to get to know them and be open to their personality even it’s very different from your own. They might surprise you in a good way!
Related: The Childhood Struggles of INTJs
The INFJ and Loneliness
INFJs are known for their complexity, vision, and empathy. They enjoy alone time and generally don’t want a lot of time socializing, especially in crowded places. At the same time, they greatly desire one or several close friends who they can connect with on a very deep level. INFJs aren’t interested in small talk or casual acquaintances, and so they can feel lonely when this is all they have for companionship. They often find getting past the acquaintance stage to be difficult and hope for more meaningful connections. They tend to feel the most isolated when they try to open up about their insights, feelings, or dreams and are met with confusion or all-out mockery. If deep conversation about philosophy, psychology, and the meaning of life were considered normal, INFJs would have an abundance of friends. Unfortunately in a world that is more concerned with celebrity gossip and day-to-day occurrences, INFJs often struggle with forming deep, lasting bonds.Loneliness Hacks for INFJs:
– Read a book filled with fascinating, in-depth characters.
– If you have at least one trusted friend or family member, call them up (or text them) and ask them to hang out.
– Spend time with animals!
– Sing or play music.
– Find a volunteer opportunity and connect with other compassionate individuals who want to make a difference!
– Journal or publish a blog.
– Find an online community of like-minded individuals (like an INFJ group, an introvert group, a writers group, etc,.)
– Be creative with art. Turn on some music and paint or draw.
– Talk to a counselor who can help you manage feelings of isolation.
Want a comprehensive guide to the INFJ personality type? Check out my eBook, The INFJ – Understanding the Mystic.
Related: The Four Reasons INFJs Struggle with Lonelines
The INTP and Loneliness
INTPs tend to thrive in a certain amount of solitude. They enjoy tinkering with ideas and theories and experimenting with a variety of projects from the comfort of home. At the same time, like all people, they occasionally crave deep friendship and trust with another individual. They may go through long periods of time alone absorbed in their own thoughts and activities and suddenly feel an increasing need for connection. If they don’t have any friends or family members to turn to they can become listless and bored. Some friends won’t understand the INTPs bouts of isolation and may ditch them when they aren’t showing up regularly for contact. It’s important for people to realize that just because INTPs aren’t always around, that doesn’t mean they don’t care. They can lose track of time and become so absorbed in their activities and thoughts that for a time they forget about outside relationships. When they lose friendships as a result of this it can make them feel very alone and frustrated with themselves. They can also feel lonely when they aren’t understood by other people. INTPs are a rare type and it can be difficult for other people to understand their highly logical yet deeply imaginative personality.Loneliness Hacks for INTPs:
– Find a meetup that revolves around an interest you have and find other like-minded friends.
– Do you have any friends or family members you trust? Send them a text and ask if they’d like to spend time together!
– Play video games? Find a group of gamers you can connect with in an online capacity!
– Find a book series with fascinating characters you can connect with.
– Join an INTP community online and discuss interesting ideas and theories.
– Find a project or experiment to work on and distract yourself with.
– Go to the movies or invite a friend over to watch a favorite movie.
– Visit an art gallery – maybe you’ll find someone who’s drawn to the same things you are!
– Try to set reminders to text your friends and ask them how they’re doing so they don’t feel neglected.
The INFP and Loneliness
INFPs are imaginative, compassionate, and creative individuals. They long for deep connections with people who aren’t afraid to talk about creative possibilities, unusual ideas, or inspiring hopes and dreams. They crave deep conversation and loyalty and tend to feel frustrated when they are stuck in the “acquaintance” phase of a relationship. INFPs can be very private individuals and may have a hard time opening up about their own feelings and dreams. They may also feel that it’s difficult to find people who share their values or their passion for the marginalized and suffering. INFPs are sensitive souls and will quickly lose interest in relationships where their values are criticized or mocked or where gossiping and sarcastic jabs are common. They don’t tolerate judgmental behavior well and they especially don’t tolerate dishonesty. They tend to feel the most lonely when they are misunderstood, belittled, or surrounded by people who are focused more on day-to-day concerns than the deeper, underlying issues of humanity.Loneliness Hacks for INFPs:
– Spend time with furry, four-legged friends!
– Read a book filled with fascinating, in-depth characters
– Find a volunteer opportunity and get to know other people passionate about a cause you believe in!
– Join a book club!
– Join an INFP group online and get into conversation with other like-minded individuals
– Take a walk in nature to refresh your mind and body
– Is there anyone you can trust? Maybe send them an email, text, or letter and ask them to hang out!
– Take the plunge and share your unique perspectives and ideas with an acquaintance. Many people are just waiting for the other person to take that first step before a true friendship can form.
– See a counselor to get help managing loneliness and feelings of isolation.
What Do You Think?
What makes you feel lonely? What helps you to recover from loneliness? Let us know in the comments!
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